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Tuesday, March 17, 2009

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of Oolong tea

Tea leaves steep in a cup of hot water for green tea by Jodi Cobb
Tea leaves steep in a cup of hot water for green tea

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed Oolong tea. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in another bowl.

Then she ladled the Oolong out and placed it in the third bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and Oolong tea," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed a hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the Oolong tea. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. However each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. But after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The Oolong tea was unique, however. After they were put into the boiling water , they had changed the water color and taste.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a Oolong tea?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the Oolong tea? The tea actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the tea, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a Oolong tea?

"People are like tea bags.
You have to put them into hot water before you can know how strong they are."

Monday, March 16, 2009

Quotes on Adversity

Adversity
Adversity


"When written in Chinese the word "crisis" is composed of two characters -
one represents danger and the other represents opportunity."

- John F. Kennedy

"Mishaps are like knives, that either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle."
- James Russell Lowell

"Obstacles can't stop you. Problems can't stop you. Most of all other people can't stop you. Only you can stop you."
- Jeffrey Gitomer

"In every adversity there lies the seed of an equivalent advantage.
In every defeat is a lesson showing you how to win the victory next time."

- Robert Collier

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Accept Challenges of Life

A Woman Aboard a Sailboat on a Rough Sea by Bill Curtsinger
A Woman Aboard a Sailboat on a Rough Sea

Smooth roads never make good drivers.
Smooth seas never make good sailors.
Clear skies never make good pilots.
A problem-free life never makes a strong and good person.
Be strong enough to accept the challenges of life.
Don't ask Life: "Why me?"
Instead, "Try me..."


Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Quotes on Challenges

Challenge: Skier
Challenge: Skier

"Challenge is the core and the mainspring of all human activity.
If there's an ocean, we cross it;
if there's a disease, we cure it;
if there's a wrong, we right it;
if there's a record, we break it;
and finally, if there's a mountain, we climb it."

- James Ramesy Ullman

"The marvelous richness of human experience would lose something of rewarding joy if there were no limitations to overcome. The hilltop hour would not be half so wonderful if there were no dark valleys to traverse."
- Helen Keller

"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are."
- Bernice Johnson Reagon

"Every result you get in your life is the combination of the challenge you receive from the reality around you and your capacity to respond to that challenge."
- Fred Kofman

"The big challenge is to become all that you have the possibility of becoming. You cannot believe what it does to the human spirit to maximize your human potential and stretch yourself to the limit."
- Jim Rohn

"There is no Challenge more challenging than the challenge to improve yourself."
- Michael F. Staley

Friday, March 6, 2009

Risks We Must Take

Risk
Risk

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose your feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken,
because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, and is nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow,
but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, or live.
Chained by their attitudes, they are slaves;
they have forfeited their freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

Thursday, March 5, 2009

Quotes on Risk

Risk: Cliff Jumper
Risk

"You'll always miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
- Wayne Gretzky

"Most people can do extraordinary things if they have the confidence or take the risks. Yet most people don't. They sit in front of the telly and treat life as if it goes on forever."
- Philip Adams

"A ship in harbor is safe - but that is not what ships are for."
- John A. Shedd

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."
- Mark Twain

"There was a very cautious man,
who never laughed or cried.
He never risked, he never lost,
he never won nor tried.
And when he one day passed away,
his insurance was denied,
For since he never really lived,
they claimed he never died."
- Parable of the Cautious Man

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Sassy Girl, Chun-Hyang 豪杰春香



近来我迷上了这部韩剧“豪杰春香”,老实说当电视预告将播出这部剧时,我并不认为我会迷上它。因为我对trailer的第一印象是中学或高中生的谈情说爱,会有些幼稚或愚蠢。可当我看了两三集之后,我真的又迷上了。

故事不只有情豆初开,纯纯的爱,也有严厉父亲对调皮捣蛋儿子的父爱,能主观对待事情和一直呵护息妇春香的Father-in-law。学生时期很单纯的爱也让我禁想起过去。。。

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Quotes on Courage


"Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore."
- Andre Gide

"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage."
- Anais Nin

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them."
- Walt Disney

“Without the courage to take the first step, we are going to remain right where we are.”
- Zig Ziglar